July – Building Better Relationships

Categories: Building Better Relationships,Word of the Month

Calvary greetings in the name of Our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ and we welcome you to the month of July.  This month, our theme is BUILDING BETTER RELATIONSHIPS. It is our utmost prayer that this month God Almighty Himself will perfect, build, establish and restore your relationships in Jesus Name.

Firstly, what is a relationship? “The way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected; and the way in which two or more people or groups regard and behave towards each other.” Oxford Dictionary

Let’s consider both of these points.  Firstly, we must establish which of our relationships are surplus to requirements. In the case of Abraham and Lot, Abraham need to separate himself from Lot in order to progress. However, in the case of Naomi and Ruth, their relationship was mutually beneficial and part of God’s plan for their lives. Secondly we want to deal with how we behave towards each other in our relationships and look at ways that can help us to improve these behaviours.

The most important relationship we can ever have in life is with Jesus Christ, our Lord and Saviour. It is my prayer that you will cultivate this relationship during this month in Jesus Name. Exodus 34:14 (NLT) says “You must worship no other gods, for the Lord, whose very name is Jealous, is a God who is jealous about his relationship with you.” This tells us that God considers Himself to be in a relationship with us.  What a joy and an honour! Psalm 24:4-5 (NLT) says, “only those whose hands and hearts are pure, who do not worship idol and never tell lies. They will receive the Lord’s blessings and have a right relationship with God their savior.” This tells us that living a holy life is very important in building a ‘right’ relationship with our Saviour.

When we think of relationships, many of us think of only marital relationships. However, God is calling us to Build Better Relationships across the board. The Bible tells us that “a man that hath friends must show himself friendly” (Prov. 18: 24). Some are too distant to form friendships when there is great value in friendship. “Two are better than one,” wrote the wise man in Eccl. 4: 9. “A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity,” the Bible says in Prov. 17: 17. To the converse, the Bible speaks of false friends when it warns, “confidence in an unfaithful man in time of trouble is like a broken tooth, and a foot out of joint” (Prov. 25: 19). There are some people that are not desired to be friends. For instance, “make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go” (Prov. 22: 24). A true friend will tell us when we are wrong. Hear the Bible, “faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful” (Prov. 27: 6). We therefore need God’s guidance when it comes to distinguishing between true friends and false ones. God will give us spiritual clarity this month concerning our relationships in Jesus Name.

Peace and unity in our marital relationships is very important. Quite often the root of conflict in our homes is misunderstanding. It is therefore very important that we learn how to communicate effectively and resolve conflict in a fair and Godly manner. Psa. 133:1 says “Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity”! Amos 3:3 says “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Heb. 12:14 says “Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord.”  In 1 Pet. 3:7 (NLT), husbands are instructed to treat their wives as they should so that their prayers will not be hindered. Brethren, it is of utmost importance that there is unity in the home so that the purpose for our lives will be fulfilled and most importantly that we make it to heaven. There must also be unity between the children and the parents so as not to allow any room for the enemy to enter our homes. We must be watchful for the devil prowls around like a roaring lion seeking someone to devour (1 Peter 5:8). You and your family will be victorious and shout for joy in this season in Jesus Name.

In all, we must remember that our relationships with others are made possible through Jesus. Ephesians 2:21-22, TLB. “We who believe are carefully joined together with Christ as parts of a beautiful, constantly growing temple for God. And you also are joined with Him and with each other by the Spirit and are part of this dwelling place of God.”


 Dr. Akpo & Andrea Onduku

(Pastors, RCCG Chapel of Grace)

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