Attitude at Home

Categories: Building Better Relationships

MEMORY VERSE: “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” (Prov 14:1).

BIBLE READING: Prov 31:10-31
10 ¶ Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

Your attitude towards your home will show whether you are wise or not. Proverbs 14:1 says, “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands”. This does not restrict the building of the home to only the woman, as inputs from the man are equally required. What is important here is the attitude of the couple. Anytime you do anything that works against the interest of your family, you are pulling it down. A wise woman invests her time, money, efforts in building up her husband, children and herself. One way you can build up your partner or home is by your words. In Proverbs 31:26, the language of the virtuous woman is full of wisdom and kindness. A woman who combines these whenever she speaks to her husband or children, would earn their respect, support and praise. The way some sisters shout at their children, you would take their residence for a mad house. If you call your children names such as dog, goat, or insane fellow, you are pulling down your house. It is only a foolish man or woman who would call his or her spouse or children anything less than what God calls them. How are you building your home?

Appreciation and commendation are part of the building blocks for the average home. Proverbs 31:28 says, “Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her”. In the house of the wise, you do not hear swearing and cursing. What you hear are words of blessings. When your wife cooks and sets the table, do you remember to say: ‘Thank you for this lovely meal?’ A simple word of appreciation, go a long way in building your family. Truth must not be compromised. It is only a foolish individual who feeds his or her spouse with lies. By the time the truth is exposed, there may be serious crisis. Anything that does not contribute to the wellbeing of your family must be avoided. In order to build together, a couple must put aside their differences, and work for their common good. By your attitude towards your wife, husband or children, are you building up or pulling down? The virtues in the virtuous woman are worth emulating by modern women.

List 20 things you can do to make your spouse and children happy. Go ahead and do them.

Pastor E. A. Adeboye

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